Ravages of Time....

I got a Facebook invite from a guy a few days back.I did not recognize the profile pic.So i did not respond to it.But then i noticed that there were quite a few mutual friends and all from my school(which logically led me to assume this guy was from my school too..) So i went to his profile just to see if i could place him.He had quite a few pics in his albums and it was when i was on the 10th pic or so that i realized the men i had been seeing in the last 9 pics had all been classmates of mine. And i was shocked..Why???

Some of these guys had been the heart throbs of school. With a hoard of fans...(Personally i had always been into the intellectual type guys,So these chaps were not ones i noticed) .And they looked so different,Not in the good sense. With beer bellies and flabby arms...One of them was actually starting to go bald. They seem to be doing well and havin a good time. But they certainly did not look like they were on the right side of 25.

I have not seen many of my classmates in 10yrs or more and Now seeing photos on Facebook leaves me with a sense of disbelief.These girls with babies in their hands and weighing some 20 kilos more than they used to are the girls i once played hop-scotch with.... Time spares no-one..So i suppose the only thing to hope for is that in 10 yrs time (no matter how i look) I still feel young :)

New Friends ,Old Friends and Ex -Friends.......

I’ve been on a 'making new friends' spree lately...Made a lot of new friends ...in varying age groups and from varying backgrounds....Ever since I moved to my new house with my husband, my biggest grouse has been that I have a trillion shops in this area and no one to go shopping with me.... Men are horrible at shopping...They either spend hours or seconds shopping...and its never for the things you like...So I was missing all my girl friends (who are now either busy with jobs or children :P) and missing my hour long shopping trips when I found some friends in unlikely places who share my love....And we'v already covered quite a few of de shops on my list (if we do this on weekdays, imagine my weekends!!) So I'm now one happy shopper:D

But I feel there is this balance god thinks u need to have ...Coz the more new friends I make the more I lose touch with old ones.... Social networking helps keep in touch( so they say ) While I’m really grateful to FB and orkut( I found a lot of old mates on them) they keep you connected without actually keeping the connection alive( am I making sense??) For example...I know which friends of mine are in which city, who are married/engaged and whoz got wat job/kid.... But I have absolutely no idea how they are...if they are happy or sad...and I have not spoken to any of them in a long time..... Which kinda makes the whole thing feel like I’m watching a movie where I have no part :(

And while old friends become more and more distant.....Life makes some old friends turn to Ex-friends..There are some friends whom I remember thinking standing beside me wen I’m old and grey..... I still remember the second I met them, The kind of friendship had with em and the warm fuzzy feeling my heart still gets wen I think of them...But somewhere along the way people change....U never factor that in when u think of being "Friends Forever" They just stop being friends for no apparent reason and while it still hurts to think of them .... Somewhere along the way I have learnt to let go as well..I still keep hoping those friends will call...Whatever the reason was for their silence -that the problem will be solved etc...But these hopes may be just hopes..... They have become "Ex-Friends"…. But friends Past, Present and Future...Here's wishing you all a great life ahead!!!

Of Competitions and Rivalries....

My account has been having Sym-olympics for the past 2 weeks...thats an event my company has every year to give the poor employees some fun and frolic....According to them this helps us use our creative brains, Helps with stress etc etc...I'm not sure how well it works in those areas.. but it helps make new friends...and fight with old ones..... Call it a competitive streak i did not know i had.... or an intolerance for injustice But when one team started cheating and usurped us from our rightful spot at number 1 i lost it....So friends in that team are now no longer talkin to me .....

As for new friends Members in my team whom i never even knew existed two weeks back are now good friends :)...So after losing our Place at number 1 in an event yesterday yesterday(coz the participating teams members were the ones conducting it) we are back at number one today after a smashing won in ODC decorations :) where all my artistry skills(that i did not know i had) came in very handy ......

So winners of the championship cup that we are i'm gonna have a lovely weekend in the secure knowledge that in the end Truth Triumphs !! and I'm a winner :)

Life's Realities

Had a long chat with my mother today ...And she asked me why i was neglecting my blog...which reminded me that i had not written a new post for more than 8 months..... All thanks to that fantastic husband of mine.... Truth is i started the blog as a means to vent my feelings...and now that i have a 24 hr sounding board in both Arun and my mom...i did not really need to vent...besides the last 4 months of my life has been so damn blissful... that i was worried that writing about it might jinx it.....Anyway will try to update regularly in future......

Reality Check.....

I"m a dreamer......And i'v been on this roller coaster ride called a courtship for over 3 months now.Its supposed to be a lot of fun...even the arguments.....I sincerely hope my mom does not read this...or if she does that she wont pitch a fit about it.....U see my mother does not realize that arguments and getting inside another persons head are all part of the fun...Anyway our arguments range from silly things like crying after watching 3 Idiots....to serious stuff like where to buy property....to Who should learn cooking- Me or Him(Right now he is winning that particular argument)....Mom does not belong to the "Pathi is Parameshwar" group....but she still comes from the school of thought which says Girls always always have to give in.....Well i say lets bring in a whole new system.... Compromise is a great thing.... That is what makes relationships work..But if a girl is always going to be the one giving in it will not make for a happy marriage...She will be frustrated and angry at being the doormat...and carrying such grievance in her heart will not make her a saint but an idiot..... Let both partners compromise...and u will have a true marriage.....One that will last...w/o the wife being the martyr or the husband the villain....